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children do practice

well there seems to be a lot happening in the world right now
yeah is palestine peace
ah work that's going on bosnia
gorbachev is in san francisco and ticked that han and my boss and hander as well as others have meeting with him my parents are coming in town
the
ah it's also the young
high holy days ah
in that jewish faith are the new year and then coming up on forth
someone's trying to gain
is the day of atonement and also bodhi dama de that we celebrate his on october fifth

sell the owl
the day of atonement
now the word atonement or at tony's to be at one at one to come back to being are in accord or reconciled ah
again

and bodhi dharma
ya know who bodhi dama was who does it has never heard of body dama
hey buddy mom was an indian
ah man who
ah
ended up going to china spread buddhism to china became the first ah ancestor a pioneer in china so he's the twenty ninth ancestor counting from shakyamuni buddha that lineage and then the first of the county's it's called the first chinese ancestry the noise
indian
and buddy i was very famous for a am
a story that's in a coin collections collections of zen stories it's the first case in the blue cliff record and i the second case i believe in the book or serenity which talks about bodhi dama when he came to china for the first time me
landed in the south china and met up with the emperor their emperor wu of the young so for bodhi dama de we reenact this meeting or we have in the past with costume someone dressing up like the emperor and somebody dress up like bodhidharma
and reciting the owl
the case
ah there's a lot of legend around bony damn as well are supposedly have you ever seen those red dazzles that have weights in the bottom and the you knock 'em down in the pop up asian both japanese and chinese these are bodhi dharma dolls because he said
for nine years facing a wall i called the wall king of the wall stairs
he was very strong doesn't practitioner so these dolls if you push it down the pop right back up and also they don't have their eyes are always staring because bodhidharma was at one time got so annoyed and himself are getting sleepy that
legend has it that he
excuse me for this graphic description that tore off his eyelids through em down on the ground and they became the tea plant
and the drinking or the brewed tea helps you stay awake and so that's you know thanks to boil them
he also just one area his two front teeth knocked out by table that the second
so before he got to the emperor wu he was some this the third son of an indian prince and pressure uttara his teacher ah was very highly thought of and body down with whose name was body tara at the time
his father gave passionate tara a beautiful jewel and pressure to asked the three boys the three princes are you know what they had to say about that and the oldest to said while you're such a wonderful teacher and of course our father gave you this high highly precious
gem at but when it came bodhidharma body terrorists first a chance to say something he said it isn't the young well he said a lot about this jewel a basically at the shining of the jaw was not the important thing but the knowledge and wisdom that sees the jewel
that's the important thing until passionate era knew that he had a lot of aptitude but he'd kept very solid and didn't say anything yet
and over the years he watched him and after his father guide bodhi sat by the casket for seven days in a kind of meditational
samadhi or concentration state and after that he asked for ordination and then he practiced with passion attire for forty years as his close attendant
this before i started teaching
impression of tire told him i don't know how all body dharma has but you can count up he said sixty seven years after i die go to china and and you can start teaching so he was with pressure to tara for forty years and then sixty years after he died he set out three years took
i'm three years on a boat to get the check to china so he was an old guy but
and president i told him when he got to the south did not stay there because the understanding of the people in the south they are very interested in pious works and not in the true teaching he can have predicted this and when he got there he met up with emperor wu and emperor wu
built monasteries supported monks and when he met bodhidharma he said to him
what is the highest meaning of the holy truths it was stampers question
bodhi dharma said
mt know holiness
and the emperor said who is this facing me
bodhi said don't know
and after that he left the emperor and cross the yangtze river and went to show him temple and sat facing a wall for nine years that was the exchange
so
you know what are the high holy days and what his holiness and how is it that when asked what is the highest meaning of the holy true's are bodhidharma says empty know holiness what was he pointing out there

so
just to go in a little further he
i did get disciples while he was in china for different disciples and he also his fame spread very wide and people became as enemy certain people at the time fellow by the name of our body ruchi and another guy gwangju and they threw stones at him knocked out his front teeth that's what happened to them and they also tried to poi
in five times ah
so he somehow attracted a certain now
negative energy
bodhidharma did
no there so
facile a little essay by on
one hundred dog zingy about bodhi dharma and is for disciples call coteau twining vines
and i i owe this lecture actually to one this sunday i came upon while reading to my son was kidnapped by robert louis stevenson which takes place in scotland in one of this one of the people the characters says we will have to twine and there's a note in the book and it says it means part
we'll have to part
so i thought isn't that interesting twine means part i thought twine kind of meant to go together but twain i guess means parts so maybe the maybe it's similar to twain never the twain shall meet
so twining vines are what is twine twine is this rope that's made of two strands at least two strands wrapped around together so you have you have this rope that's two strands but is actually one piece of rope it's
not one and not to is neither to nor one
and ah
and twining vines are like that this is twenty miles is another name for the teacher disciple relationship where the dharma is transmitted through this thorough understanding between teacher and disciple like twining vines but the and the teacher and disciple are not one
but they're not necessarily to either now that
that's
you know usually we think if something is not one that has gotta be two or two or more but to have something that's not one and not to are both one and two
but actually our life is closer to that
so ah so these twining vines are twisted strands that twist together and turn around and make a myself yourself
ah
being that's neither one nor too
so body dharmas for disciples would they express their understanding he said to one you have my skin to the other one you have my flesh to another when you have my bones to the fourth you have my marrow
and each one of those disciples was met thoroughly by bodhidharma and express their understanding thoroughly
ah and each was totally unique
and one of them received his transmission the last one
ha
as well
so
or some of them better than the others were some of them closer to body dharma and other how to how do we understand this
and that's that steadying twining vines how things are wrapped around each other twisted together woven together interlaced together and yet ah
is is one closer than the other or further away or they just all tangled together like twining minds
so the
the teacher disciple
relationship
ah is not one and not too and i've been reading this book called the i'm great bliss queen by anne klein and she'll it's is lots of notes were it shall be i'll be reading along and they'll be a note and you look it up in the back and it says i owe this
point to a conversation i had with so and so they clarified this for me or gleaned from an understanding from a conference where some people would talk she notes all these different ways in which she was influenced and informed by all
these people in our life you know not only quotes from books but conversations with her friends and colleagues
so purchase make she wrote the book the book is an klein's it's her book you can't see anyone else wrote it but then
ah but she owes a lot to all these people for saying something here and saying something there
which is closer to our life is we don't just produce in a vacuum
our our anything are works of art our
any kind of creative idea there's this combination of not one not just from yourself and not too not just from other people other people didn't so with this lecture you know
i big you know if i begin pulling all the strands you know all the people they speak with him practice discussion and at meetings where things come out or what i heard on npr
driving the kids to school just all this is just always flooding in to help create this lecture i owe it i
i owed and to all of you in the mood you're in the factors that would happen here all this helps to create this lecture that's happening right this minute so it's not one and it's not too
and this is
this is emptiness
this not holiness so
emptiness does not mean
air air is coming
emptiness does not mean nothingness total blank nothingness emptiness is very full and ah know that sounds like a paradox but it's ah employees means not separate
inherent existence independent of anything else emptiness has to do with the fact that we are
interdependent and do not exist by ourselves can't do anything totally alone and yet here i am sitting up here and talking so it has this flicker of yes but but wait a minute not one not too
the serve like twine it's not one not to it's both and if you can hold that in your mind
that's so closer then been stuck on one side of the other
so and as a posture is like that too if you sit
in a cross legged posture you and me sitting there for well you can't remember necessarily which side is right which side is left it's all one but it's made up of these limbs that are brought in ah
to this stable posture
so if how can you look at anything and say that's wholly that special or suzuki roshi isn't and said you know if you look at a flower and say that's beautiful that's
that's a sin or that's kind of defiling to filing that flour which is not just beautiful is more than that it's everything it's the fact that you're standing there sitting there looking at a flower and can see color has to do with the fact that the sun is shining and there's enough light so that you can even see it
ah
it's so much bigger it includes everything the flower so it just say it's beautiful
is defiling it is narrowing it is
getting caught in one side or another but still we do say lots of things we say it's beautiful but to know that to say it's beautiful is maybe too much
or not enough it's not quite right it's not necessarily hitting the mark

so the teacher student relationship as twining vines are you know i recently saw the movie il positano the postman did a lot of you'd get to see it i hope he's playing in mill valley for long time and to me this was a beautiful example of twining vines you
had
for those of you who didn't see it there's a very simple
plot it had to do as pablo neruda being exiled the poet pablo neruda being exiled to a small island in italy in a house on a hill and
a young man who was kind of and much i say seem to become like a ne'er do well yeah i can get a job and he didn't want to do
what his father did which was fishing and used to get sea sick and boats and but he he was kind of an artist himself but he didn't even know it anyway he gets the job of bringing the mail up to pablo neruda on his bicycle every day and pretty soon he in pablo neruda
just by this can daily contact
i get to be to have a relationship
and you know it looks like maybe they're becoming friends
but i don't know necessarily if they were real friends i think pablo neruda
became his teacher actually and he taught him and open up for him a world a world of beauty and language and metaphorically metaphors that was there that was right there that ill post keno
wow couldn't really see you know he he needed help he needed some help to see the beautiful plant island he lived on and to know and have confidence in his own ability to on
appreciate the world and described the world
and they twine you know and and they helped each other
a in fact in what at one power point pablo neruda says to the postman would you describe your father's boats and the posts when kenneth tough for wound he said trees day he said sad and pablo neruda collection because to
yeah i wouldn't have said that probably thought that's how it looked and he wrote it down i actually found the poem where it says in years with the sad boats and should have brought it to read but so this is all fictitious know you know but they use their palm
sad boats
so at the end public new route of goes back to his life and the post you know is left
in his poor island but he has a new wife and ah
anna kind of joy of life but he misses pablo neruda and everyone else feels well since he doesn't write maybe he wasn't really your friend maybe you really didn't care for you in and the years pass and
what happens to the postman is he has to drop his dependence and pablo neruda to make his life alive and he finds a way to make his life alive and goes forward and steps out in a very valiant way ah and ends up
getting killed in a mob in a crowd right when he's going to read his poetry the first poem that he had written dedicated to pablo neruda in a kind of a rally where it turns into a mob scene
so he
he lets go of his dependence on his teacher and sets forth
and
but still there twining vines still his understanding came
through his relationship with his teacher but you can't it can't be you can't hold onto that you can't grasp after that you have to let that go and find your own way which he did
so this kind of valiant
going forth
is what we all have to do and to find our at one moment again to reconcile ourselves to our ah
to to reconcile means to find the friendship begin to
reunite and the root of it means to call for uniting canada shout a to call out for uniting
ah
and this is very difficult to do it and sometimes it takes a lot of courage i've witnessed people trying to find reconciliation and the courage than it takes and the ah
strength it takes to
come to at oneness again
which is neither one nor to which takes two people to come to accord and yet they're still those two people
i have been spending a lot of time at soccer games recently my son's on a select soccer team and he has a coach from australia
and
very interesting because he says things that i think it american coach probably probably could get away with but wouldn't occur to an american coach to say he yells out in this australian accent be brive be bribed sons be brive
and
did you understand what i say
yeah and i it was he say what since a be kids with are now picking up on how he talks and he also says you know be strong and he calls his players honest they're honest these are honest players
so how's i never thought of an honest soccer player really
but honest comes from
honor and honest to goodness is it is absolutely genuine the honest to goodness truth and when he admires a player he says they're honest meeting there or not they have no designs you know on being the being the one who gets the goal
or they're just trustworthy they'll play for the team they'll play for the team's benefit and
and to be brave means to be strong valiant means to be strong so he calls up i think from these are just these kids are under ten their nine
nine years old monk mostly the now beginning to turn ten but their youngsters you know but he's able to call up from them a
an energy anna a heroism really when they're on the fields they're like they're just say heroes you see them putting forth their stout hearted and true energy for this game dropping off any
you know self serving actions and going forth and when and they do need to be brive because they're ball comes you know you can get hurt and kids get pulled off the field and teeth not just i bought it when they get the front teeth knocked out of
so to go towards that ball sometimes you need to have this spirit brave bravery is sometimes thought of as an innate quality and courage is what you bring forth at the moment i don't i don't know if i would say that exactly but as with the dictionary says about brave brave as in an innate quality
lee
ah so they become heroes they really do when you watch them
and then and you're surprised when they come off the field after watching these heroes that you know they want their popsicles and you know either fresh or is it oh yeah these kids their nine years old but when they're on the field putting forth their stouthearted valiant energy it's it's
it's stirring now they're heroes and in the word hero means to protect
so the true heroes are those that
ah lived for the benefit of others that drop their ones needs to get things for oneself and live to help all living beings this is the body sat for vow and the body suffers is
ah yes it takes a kind of heroic this to drop our
inclinations for getting things for i me and mine and to see what the situation calls for ah
and to protect other beings to protect other beings protect them from one's own in to be mindful to be filled with a mindfulness has a social dimension i owe this thought to anne klein it has a social dimension which is to protect other beings from one's own
carelessness and
possible ways you can harm if you're mindful
not only is it
not only do you become enlivened yourself and and filled with kind of joy of living in the present but you protect other beings from your own carelessness and harsh words and so it takes care of other beings to be mindful
ha and present
this protects other beings
and in trying to reconcile with other people to be very aware of one's own internal
take on things and not necessary believe that that's the way things are is a kind of protection
you
turn your attention inwards and see where you might be stuck where what what is the dialogue and internal dialogue that's going on about that person
that's stopping you from reconciling that's getting in the way of reuniting
so mindfulness of that is very helpful for reconciliation and at one mint and creating this to not one
twining

so this kind of honesty and protection the hero the bodhisattva as hero or heroine
ah
it helps in practicing all the precepts
you know it we've been having lot of difficulty with our parking lot or our guest parking
is it opened today did you park on the or it's open today we've had to close it i don't know if you know this
but there's been a series of break-ins
especially in the night overnight parking
night after night several times a week even though we've asked people not to leave valuables in their car people were staying at the guest house and
coming for overnight stays
ah but the locks have been jimmy roofs have been slashed
and then a tail who's head of our maintenance when kind of searching around back there to see what was going on and found a person woman's purse with credit cards and whisky bottles of beer bottles and junk lots of junk all down in her got a green gulch down the end of the road there
which we really weren't aware of it's a very it's one it some place where we really haven't extended our presence it's sir
i'm not exactly unconscious is just down at the other in green gulch but it's not safe anymore to have cars there and then we just hate cars park in the day
and then there were some break-ins in the day like between foreign six in the afternoon
so it's a big problem and we don't know exactly what to do we're really taking this up
number of people on staff have formed a sec kapiti and ah what we're going to do about this
no
you know the the second precept are actually after the theater three pure precepts then there's the ten grave precepts the second grave precept is not to steal or not to take what is not given
and in a commentary about this precept
it talks about any anything that's been given to the triple treasures been given to the buddha it has
great merit even the smallest thing that's been offered to the buddha has great merit and so to steal from the buddha or to steal from the triple treasure has its has a grave is to its home
ah in order to protect beings in this is
this is a way to that i've been trying to look at this in terms of the parking lot the down there in order to protect these beings or coming in stealing basically from the triple treasure which is as grave consequences we have to do something we have to we have to put a gate up our lights or motion detectors
something to help them
and also help the people whose cars are being broken into but
ah this sound
i've been trying to look at how to protect beings in this situation

so it's very this i o two a conversation in a pre-screening with tension we have anderson oh another one of the young precepts is not to praise self at the expense of others or not to discuss the faults of others so
fault means am
ah
a defect in perfection
it stops you from perfection it stops you from fully expressing your
buddha nature of perfection
san if you look at people and see their faults always it's very easy as read was pointing out is very easy to anybody can look in fact we do it all the time look out and see everybody's fault
but the difficulty is seeing people's virtues how do you look and see people's virtues
so this is our this is something for me to stay how do you see people's virtues how do you look at someone and see their virtues and if you study very strongly looking for virtues
you discover a lot you can discover a lot

i owe this to listing to terry gross
fresh air and pierre she was interviewing a man named eric lomax who was an english officer who had been captured during the war and was a japanese prisoner of war and had been interrogated and tortured terribly by especially by this one japanese officer
i know some of you heard the interview and he
i survived the war and afterwards had a kind of vow to find this man and he actually wanted revenge
he didn't know where to find him he didn't know his name
or if he knew his name he did you know it was a name that there are a lot of anyway synchronous degree he was given years later while while he was searching he was given a english language newspaper from japan that had the story written by a japanese officer talking about the remorse and
regret that he had four or what he had done to this particular english officer during the war and so that the english man began to he went and tried to find out especially as you could whether or not this was the actual person
and he contacted him
and they met in thailand i think that's where they had had their encounter there with their wives and they came and they they met each other and the japanese man asked for forgiveness and
ah he was a buddhist and it was through his practice that he came to our feel this ah
wanting to what he wanted to make atonement he wanted to become at one again he had actually got the englishman who died and when he found out that he was still live he was so thankful because he could in-person make his atonement wasn't too late and to reconcile real
night and they are they actually were able to do it in english man waited until they had had a number of meetings together until he really believed that this man was thoroughly
ha
ah thoroughly remorseful and ah
sorry for what he'd done and at that point he forgave him
so this is possible this summer
writing at all different levels misunderstandings ah
in grave grave
wrongs that we've done there is there is possibility for atonement and reconciliation

so on our understanding of emptiness it's very important not to think of emptiness as and nothingness out of amputees without emptiness nothing nothing can emerge the fact that everything is interdependent means that it changes
and grows and dives and forgives and loves and otherwise if be very stuck in stagnant if it were not in relationship so being in relationship is of paramount importance and mindfulness it's it's very important to be filled with
with mindfulness and yet not
fallen to the pitfall of of being so you can become so involved with mindfulness that you forget about compassion this this a kind of pitfall there to watch for
so
i wanted to read you a kind of description of emptiness which is interdependence and compassionate a read this setup lecture i gave on wednesday i thought you'd appreciate it
so this is from joanna macy book world is level world itself and it describes
ah the time before the big bang and she she's quoting a italo italo calvino was an italian writer and also he collected a folktales italian folktales and he wrote a book called cosmic comics
it's where he describes the evolution of life from an individual who experienced it before the big bang so everything's as he says
ha all the universe all the matter was concentrated in a single point before it began to expand into space so everything was there so is this is what he says we were all there where else could we have been
we were all in that one point and man was it crowded
contrary to what you might think it wasn't the sort of situation that encourages sociability
given the conditions irritations were almost inevitable
and then it goes on in in addition to all the people you had to add all the stuff we had to keep piled up in there all the material that was to serve afterwards to form the universe from the nebula of andromeda to devotion mountains to so and so forth and then there is this family that suit zoo family and all their household goods and their camp beds and their mattress
he and their baskets too big mess so ah so naturally are naturally there are a lot of complaints and gossip and stuff going on when they're all on this is one point except for this one lady mrs poverty knee and missy
puccini no complaints ever attached to her and she's remember very fondly her bosom her thighs her orange dressing gown everybody liked her
and she slept with her friend mr whatever his name but you know in a point if there's a bed it takes up the whole point so it isn't a question of going to bed but being there because anybody in the point is also in the bed and anyway they're all there to get it
so this state of affairs could have gone on indefinitely but something extraordinary happened
and this is kind of really the origins of the universe an idea occurred to mrs poverty oh boys if only i had some room how i'd like to make some pasta for you
and then out this is the longest sentence of the english language to this paragraph here
out there joanna macy loves and in that moment we all thought of the space that around arms would occupy moving backward and forward over the great mound of flour and eggs while her arms needed and needed white and shiny with oil up to the elbows and we thought of the space the flower would occupy
and the week for the flour and the fields to raise the wheat and the mountains from which the water would flow to irrigate fields of the space it would take for the center arrive with its raised to rape in the wheat of the space for the sunda condensed from the clouds of stellar gases and burn of the quantities of stars and galaxies and gulf
hectic masses and so on and so forth and the same time we started this space and at the same time that mrs puff vaccine was uttering those words ah what the boys the point that contained her and all of us was expanding in a halo of distance in light years and light centuries and billions of light
millennia and we were hurled to the four corners of the universe and she dissolved into i don't know what kind of energy light heat she misses poverty knee she who in the midst of are closed petty world have been capable of a generous impulse boys the pasta i could make for you a true out
first of general love initiated at the same time the concept of space and properly speaking space itself and time and universal gravitation and making possible billions and billions of suns and planets and
and that was mrs puccini she scattered to the continents of the planet's needing with flowery oil shiny generous arms
and she lost at that very moment and we morning her loss
so in the midst of our life

to or to have a generous impulse a generous
what you can do for someone and this some this creates our world actually this is what created our compassion mrs pacini

kay thank you very much
may our intention
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basically feminism and beautiful and great blue screen and for tibet with your car
i think part legendary part historical roman and practitioner teacher you should serbia
klein and enclosure she's a scholar she teaches that
ah i know she's that was confident for watch for my niece she wouldn't you can remember wish to
and practitioner or
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k l e i n number name the
meeting the great bliss queen
leading the great
from the destroy about the public to me that was from a book called cosmic comics with eos m i c o m i e s cosmic comics one euro by italo calvino
and it was quoted in joanna macy but world as lovers world as sprint
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okay
well example that
comes to mind your film
i did and in product
for example that
come to mind is going
i did an improvisational workshop i think i've told a story maybe here before it
and each person with given something that they had to repeat in their mind
over and over and over and then they had to go out and do the little on found the impro you know they just began tracking in mind was abnormal so i kept repeating i'm normal normal normal and and then then i had to act out the scene and other somebody else's and sophisticated and sophisticated i'm intelligent i'm rich and everybody
he had their own and then we try to interact well you know i found whatever i was been internally i'm normal normal normal to i would say things like
know i kept say these cliches because i was normal so i couldn't have nothing else would come through this
anyway and the sophisticated person kept using french things you know what they see can try to clean things like that issue is so sophisticated so are all caught in our own tape and couldn't actually relate to one another we were buried so i think the mindfulness
it helps one become aware of the internal dialogue and then there's the internal dialogue by other people too they think they're so pure and they think they've got so much power and evidence that will get in the way of
listening
a feeling the pain and will be the person saying i'm feeling where larges you know man horses isn't just mind it's mindfulness of body and breath and feelings and the moments that are coming up so to fill your body with mind to be mindful
your body mind is that not one not two thing as body mind filling
where your focused and yet aware of this flux you're focused and that's happening and still with it and yet
aware of the kind of movement and motion and stuff that's also that's happening at the same time so if you're not aware that than you do on
can you you're not examining you just say some thing because they like that without that turning
while also turning in
so
i think the other thing about mindfulness is ah
if you practice it strongly you become very alive feeling how very present and you you don't have time to kind of think we will reply do for their approval or to make it sound good or to fulfill their expectations it's like
because the practice of being so aware what's going on is so satisfy you know and so alive and enlivening that town
there's not so much room for
falling into one
living for the for what other people want you to be
that me to leap

think the sturdy related about the program on your ah
when i hear these stories it always kind of gets me
and i think the reason is that because i'm not able to have those same kinds of
abilities to forgive him that way and so when i hit these to really means a lot ah
so would you give a little time and talk about forgiveness
a ban how how
i always want someone to give me alone former formula will do this this net and then you'll be able to forgive and so far have found
well
it's not an intellectual event i am in some
you know the word to pardon at i think the last like i gave which was in july last sunday talk was about forgiveness because of you by company
so the word for what we can ah sorry so the word for give his for give it's the exact translation of pair donati for to give to give it its the time i'm giving you know so to forgive his and to party is the same
thing pardon and forgive and period of and to donate you know it's a gift so
ah
before that time is before that time but i think gonna
mrs one thing in a a issue shake i or two and i can't remember it
and joko beck kb to quebec
who says if you look in any relationship that's not going well with strife and problems there is the somewhere in there there's an inability to forgive that you can bet on it
so that that really came you know home to we are just looking at my relationships
no one may say to themselves
i can't forgive him what what they did was unforgivable you know
ah
but then you hear these stories get in and you see that there is the human we had we do have this capacity because we we actually young
i think we want to forgive if it actually keeps us this is
more i think i think this is category roshi is this combination when i was doing a talk and forgiveness test i remember you joke about cartier roshi
he can rush me a lot of people talking about forgiveness and
the young a fact that when you don't forgive you are keeping yourself from filling and flowing with joy if it stops you it is hurting you the person may not have the person may feel badly as well but they may not be affected but it actually of
thanks you so
when when you say you don't think you're one of those kind people or something who care know
ah
one may not know how to even start or what do i do i know i don't forget this person
so how do i even start
and
i guess my filius you don't want a hurry the process but you but to start somewhere like i need help here i want to forgive him can't you can start there
and you can also there's loving kindness medications that you can actually
very beautifully boot worked out buddhist meditation where you start with sending
ah you know thoughts of loving kindness may all beings be happy navy be filled with joy and you start with usually start with yourself and you know these visualizations were ethan know visualize your heart chakra a white lotus and opening in
we don't do this so much in a exam practice where you have a guided visualization such as that that i know at spirit rock they do and to get hands group doesn't and they're not antithetical and i i don't think
by any means so you you wish for yourself on to be free from sickness and to be happy and and then you the next kenneth you think of yourself i mean you can do a lot of different ways but anyway the next year is the people you love and are close to your family and france and then the peak
apple that
our kind of neutral people quite as isn't it in know and then you've got your enemies and you actually consciously make words and bar was not send out wishes to these beings
and beyond into all straight people menteri your risk
so that's an actual practice that people to do few matter

so if you know about forgiveness it's
some people can't forgive themselves for what they've done to others there's that were they what they feel they've done is unpardonable unpardonable and to so terrible that they cannot forgive them trends so that's one kind of forget and then there's other people who you feel have done to you
and there is this way by which you this is another practice of exchanging self for others were you
you imagine you were brought up like that person had the same background we stand in their shoes in detail what the are of life but how they were ignorant of various things in you you understand you you try to understand and out of that often will come
some insight into what made them do with the dinner but it was all about
the loser
contact with them
i think that's a good things like that matter
ah about not not one to
i can my hands were children
the other day information retraces
his own
i couldn't help heal great them
not a question of blaming
it didn't do
on
not not
whether he's guilty or not not the issue for that is there
no this having stopped coming on
and i
they entered connectedness how here
affects so many people around the world a whole world all
and so that
ah
there was this great sadness that i felt suddenly
that there is no separation between
o j and myself
the
not much different than him
yeah it's not one it's not too i'm still not in his shoes but no less he attacked me
sure
so many so make it or
every perfect
i just think of the ripples that and the pants
and the areas forgiveness
for me is that
i know that
hi i have other thing i make i made you can do a thing i said in in re i will be rate i know
but i found out of the damage that our justice
i just as back
thank you
but
i think it just has something to do it
great said so or
we're having just to be that kind of the situate i really don't want to stay away from canada
i get something just came back
the i'm talking
but me i appreciate what you bring me a bite but it reminded me a while you were talking and to kick out on pomona pirate which i think a lot of you probably know it basically describes vietnamese boat people eating and
a pirate ship coming as they did and
catching the ship and waking a twelve year old girl and she
drowning who throwing yourself overboard down and herself after that and he says i am if young girl through the poem is in a call me by their true names i am this young girl who felt she couldn't this is not the promises that just this is my
what i remember help who felt she couldn't live anymore in her community activist and i am a pirate who
you know out of ignorance can get this thing and i'm no different had i been brought up the way he was and had his life and you know who's to say that i wouldn't also he said i would have done the same thing so this self identify again find of wish
not just picking one thing i'm gonna be like at the ideas but realizing
all that com damage your names are there
so
it's a beautiful poem
group that internet
hug island
what am i can i am not
back
yeah i'm how much
and that
i've tried to write about and why i love
hit ten
right
a lot
when i wrote get some i mean he left and back in heart
yeah and what
and that me
a way that
it has been a waste
to the action of the heart
hi
and then i love of happen
later that
thank you image

how that
years ago
let me practice
what to work and start a business and less true
so now becoming real
in the corporate world
got burned
out of that
last name
it's been a period of time
complete this connection really from the world itself and what is funny
what is exciting
he crop the away free
looking back at that it was
that this person had taken from me
works of art so long to create
the
the came up to the point where i fell
at an operation fellow communities bad
after that without needing a painting or growth
one with our call
you came to choking
was very close to them
in last week's with had happened a lot of emotions in very close to the surface
the time
of allowing mansfield's to com
i've been that human interactions with this person
and realized that he represents
that this person or presents my ego part of me death hence put me through all of
the close again shutting down the this could swing from other people to stories like this one but it just keep coming back up again have to be told
yeah am so
in the process of realizing that was making them
and then
pirate
and that suffering at what are you think stated now is what can i
by
me
what can i
connect
one with other people
to okay an art to let other people began
it's a it's not a question expensive it answered a question in the sensor
oh
how was the world fire
to take to it worked
and much less right now
and so

the opening people questions
ha
thank you
thank you for coming a green hunch

i heard to can also stay after talking about that long reading that at this moment on the coast of thailand the babies be work will become a pirate twenty years from now in our world
which is a powerful thing that we think that that the world that we create recreate that heidrick is capable of the axe right back
they all kind of said something like
but one person is capable of all people and ate too much
and that's that's very that's powerful if we really take it into our hearts
i important a twelve step programs and one of the like one practice and i've learnt there is that we have
two steps one is that we make a list of all people we have harm and become willing to make amends to them all and then the second step that the make direct event such people who reposted except on you so
and that practice of actually taking responsibility for myself and some direct way making amends kind of people is a practice of compassion and forgiveness
the more capable of being honest myself and directly only
my misdeeds for the the ways guy partners or oh god forgive us for other people please best in my experience with attracts you said i honestly have definitely because my belief which was an irregular at least try and take responsibility for those posting then i become much more
for getting a lot of people and it it's that and i acted embedded in that as the notion that it's not that justice is not god's justice stop compassion he that we can let go of that notion of justice if i can just get just have to get that get that person or get some kind of redress or been as that whole region a thing
we do here in this culture and if there's no way that we can go beyond that that it becomes more possible to old national to for you see some people
and i have a question which has do with the parking lot
there is if there isn't that terrible that talks about thieves coming into a master's house where he's got a baby and they come in and started robbing and you sitting there in the moonlight to my recollection and what they just got cleaned out the house he stopped in any big himself don't he says will take my cloak to you forgotten that
that and he offers no thing that he's wearing can give a and they leave and then he says and i wish i could be have move the
and i wonder how that applies to vote for you you know well i think
the most valuable offered of them there have been out ever know will take is enough
i think it fun
if someone chooses to do what's right for one i think that people tend to be guess i'm not choose a in and their parents were definitely so it's practice in to one
well packaged with pudding which have been anything people are passing the was thanking me but it's a big mess so and i wouldn't extrapolate will an event that the the idea of on i think that you know to live
so that your main thing is to awaken other people you know that too can benefit other people what can you most perform that is the most beneficial well it's to expose them to the teachings of buddha aim awaken them you know so that's what he was doing i feel that this instead this was his way in wait anymore
another time you might have to get your hands off time mommy i don't think it's necessary and then it mean to continue giving all your possessions it's to tell on that moment
most appropriate response was that and that's what i've written about and but it could have been up north the next game depending on the the robbers were
one of the first lecture that here when i came to zen center when it first lectures i am
oh then touch a baker had to do with distinct that you mentioned about profitability and you didn't take her to call me but he said something like we would all sell off saw our mothers
we're all corruptible basically and we would if the circumstances were such we would sell off are managing and that hit me just came else when you are speaking can hit me so hard it just
i'm being honest about the fact that i was capable just like walter thing i am capable of doing acts in a rage i can't a t you know i cannot guarantee that i wouldn't or you know you can think of lots of other scenarios where you would go against your by
best intentions out of fear or
so knowing that you know i remember when i heard that lectures like with knowing that can i have to practice with all my might you know i can not black and off for a moment because there may be harm you know i may and corruptible you know i am practical meaning able to be
to go against your on deepest intention you can use this possibility so that really keen and restaurant that and if you can't if you steal pencils from work you can't sit zazen was two things were angels the same way
the such i mean like
we're talking about the details of our life here
i'm not holding around no more police okay
hundred i'm
a
i didn't know pay yeah
they had very grand
i have an that there's no different today inherent in her hand and the elimination thing gushing they typically take that respect local hobby
have an appeal and partners were to come to pass that
i'm
mm they have had time to plant and warrants and one
i pack
months or and scrape that isn't one
ha ha isn't that the differences
hopefully a passion
that it's an allegation wasn't anger if the motivation i i can be open and anger than you're not like we're not likely chairman and the great depression about because they're like like can get people's l on practice
play
i'm i'm more
i said at the very interesting think that know even if you're going to try and have some clarity and vision around and
the yeah i think that know
okay okay i heard that you know if you're going to push the times faster than
and i think we we have to that all the time when he likes to talk about yeah
some production here if i know that i worked at cool and work techniques healthy churches uk comes up to two percent or night noise https jeff there's a lot of he gave them a family and shoot to kill them don't make the
and i know a gym membership and nothing quite like it
shouldn't kill and they get really get me and they hope to chip kelly
but
again it
it said
i and you can hook but

you know one of the saddest things about you know when i was talking about fence because we'd be drive the drive in a position that this some the kind of
now you can use that beautiful energy than so downhearted and true fear
physical
energy and and i think in the military you know that often they use that they'd take that beauty you know and use it for purposes for you know and it's small and young men and women that i think of it most as and nail thing ashley more than
energy islam you know they're destroyed in because they're ancient their hearts are true and brave and new heroes do trying to protect but it's it gets perverted him
on
so yes if you've been a punch out of compassion and about mindful it be mindful of the country it's more like what is the intention of your punch and if it's to wake some media and there's plenty of stories about it although if you know i had a somebody and is the corvallis and group would read a lot of these stories and he didn't like what somebody said so he grabbed him by the
a scruff the next ship them around and it because he was doing the zen master thing in her and then
south africa
we had him several meetings and the woman never came back to sit after i mean
he may have been very mindfully shaking but it had it was serve some idea about what then you know nothing to do with you know meeting this person in awakening you know so
you always have to look at intention beneficial others and the to benefit is waking to their true nature it's not having number waking them up to what you believe and want them to you
so have to be very careful with it
i will take that i know i was twenty one year old son who was raging through my parking lot of i know how can i think i've given away my mother to my kind of my position has how it feels it's gone that far and so time there was punching going on last night and i was i was doing this mindful punching and we we have done
go ahead of and the worst verbal by i've ever had in my family last com
and i you very much on the point is that i was fun trying to transmit dharma somehow more in some sense rather than seeking his true nature
i believe that's what i heard you say and it says if my son i take i really know his true nature professing that actually not true at all
i don't much so that
as was gone me
the town so you felt you were trying to that your again my your do you can of yellow has just given and given a given them and my cloak and my mother is been to how it felt on the it still isn't enough physicists this raging raging raging raging read going on and so it is for me a point where
it seems like a punches relevant seems like saying no i'm not going to give the moon and my mother norma cloak nor my part of this is done with is not right the right thing this point but it's just for me the calendar kitten and i think the way through but those he is becoming procedures me about my seeking his true name
you're in some way that's not a codependent co-op hauling coal co something we might my purely seeking his true nature of much as that for me i have a done
and if you get allowed in a manager like the
well i think that's what follows for you know is how can you bring everything you've got to this link
with reconciliation and to go as you if you know uniting doing on the same side hump without any of it can't to have it go your way would have a you to drop
an just find out with her then you might need help and the animals on
want to get to personally he them and you may need like and care of you may need a witness who is a helpful neutral who helps you to listen in on a personal listen but damn
you know
i didn't hold your son he's been a making to anyone to twenty one ten institute
so long is a lot going on you lot a lot it's all comes to eight am at one point on fine
history and needs
you know
the thing about a speaking truly you speaking from benefit and is that the right timing of my place wasn't for things before the buddhist spoke she checked us to do that if it beneficial in it fertilized it true and you might just that there is a is what i'm saying tours is just out of the
the reactions and anger is it
on tape with
at the christian
emotional that's right so so if you're not sure maybe you are quite you know maybe you listen any weight isn't beneficial maybe it's true but as a beneficial attack maybe not then is the time right and is the place bait so those for and it make
keep you from one mate
wait to speak
so
yea i had fun
i feel free tuition having a teenager
and

i we just heard this story about suzuki roshi one's gonna talk
a recollection read was talking about stories that nuclear she told and with his first teacher who was very
which i say i don't want to call them mean that he gave various things so that all the other amongst one way and censorship machine it wasn't know some jovial fun then master to hang around with it was really difficult
but he escaped he stayed in there because as he says he was too stupid to go
ah you know
it may not it may not be as this term trends in not friends over now but there's something deeper that's more important

come on
he wasn't

and he will carry up
i thought i came early and
i'm not that i'd add that i know
and now when i hear hackmatack
passion
protection
can be more and more however right women are
my own ayrton and denial of now
track
and it force that months apart our efforts than most of my efforts were in compassion hologram ethic and absent
the our international are interviewing
and i feel like time
ah where
there is an honor
for some reason why i have a greater awareness of the time
and if congress there i'm not
and i i just added content and
a relationship now
i like it
the
yeah
worse it's a big issue especially for women i might add about self-care and i think women
and men to
a lot of mean i come and hundred with this
anyway being socialized into taking care of everybody else first and everybody else's needs first and being kind of
the priorities being such that your
needs our way down at the bottom mean if you put them above a new called selfish and i mean this this is not uncommon is a big issue self-care and and the kind of on
it's very interesting and trying to bringing into the lecture but i didn't play away but i'll tell you the dalai lama met with this group of therapists this i owe to anne klein his book meeting the greatness queen because there is and he's very sensitive she says sensitive and a culture man as
and they had is very difficult time trying to get across what self hatred yes she didn't i could not get it
so i entrust bot that so esteem because it it's it's so com it's so communists were you turned the self loading self hatred and self deprecation and i mean it's it's it's epidemic in all it's it's just and very young for people who are medically
eighty that's what comes out this critical judging and he can could not understand they're getting it self hatred you know i don't forget it
so yes i think you're going now the compassion it starts it starts with yourself i'm just like that loving kindness meditation starts with you may i be happy may i be filled with joy free from disease free from enmity in all those things have an all alpha and work
we are out that
how to
i don't weren't just and
compact enough
well when it
what does make you happy you know when you if you say may i be happy what what do you do on a gay by day moment by moment basis that is self care law actually the first thing that came up again that
what is allowed
that
the then we have stepped away
now issue
i know him
i think a love it
either to be really can't love other and this realization of i mean that that also was a concept you hear banded around but the fact is that the what happiness is
it turns into a you have like jealousy and envy for all the good things they have or what about me you know and it it gets all perverted you know and distorted unless unless you're thoroughly taking care of yourself you know people sometimes talk with me about on
you know somebody was so mean to them and they said this that the other data a data and the fact is the person who is that way is an unhappy person suffering is filled with that's what it's all about a person who's joyful and happy does not speak harshly and uncannily there
that's not what comes out of it so you've got to you if you don't want to speak harshly you ought to have sufficient you have to take care of your test them self care here guess that's allowed our darling cone and not so you heard her speak here
she just wrote a book on arthritis
i am self healing and one of the chapters is about the relentless pursuit of pleasure
and she goes into this is one of the main way she helped heal or so she found she found that she was hanging out with people who were not nurture to her ashley treated her and of badly but social niceties and go to parties and and she realized with mindfulness that these people she felt sicker
ashley she had an illness that her body told her right away you know she going to on attack where she'd have a rheumatoid arthritis and check if she was with people who treated for badly so she had to say okay i cannot be with his pupil i'm not strong enough her and she would choose people who were nurturing who loved to be with her who listened to
her who you know not people who
you know you understand and all sorts of other things like this is one example i remember the sound of the teacup hitting the saucer now that little she has this nice trend that little quick as it sits itself down you know of relentless pursuit of pleasure you finding those things you love and doing
now she she realized this because she was in terrible pain couldn't move it she was brought by a friend out to the beach for a day at the beach hauled kind of other or on the back seat and said you're going to this picnic here and there she was in the sun and just enjoy yourself and there was a party and people who loved her and they brought her food thing she
he usually couldn't eat like cake and and she was pain free for like two days afterwards
and realized that she was she had to do these things for
and in fact she makes she schedules them in you know those are that she gets cheap as river rafting for disabled people she's gone up all these rivers and she's in ecstasy she lost it out when water
so these are and then she has all of this energy for other people she works that she's a bodywork you know she doesn't feel like ah not another person's shoes